It's interesting to see the main themes that come out from this music to grieve to playlist - certainly there's death and loss, there's depression and mental illness, there's the whole relationship breakup genre and there's family and friend trauma, although strangely enough, not many songs about moving house (which often makes the top 5 lists of "most stressful things that can happen to you!")
What's also interesting is that most tracks are written from the perspective of the protagonist - the person who has experienced the loss, the heartbreak, the depression - rarely do we see the perspective of those people that love the protagonist - and think about it - there's a lot of them!
Husbands of wives who have just lost their mother, sisters of brothers who have just got divorced, the BFF who holds you while you hold your pet as the vet sends them to sleep. And we don't really think of them - well - we do - but, most of the time we're so focused on our own grief that it's hard to think of how we're affecting the people we love. And sure - that's probably how it should be - if the relationship is solid then hopefully you'll be there for them when they need it.
But what do you do when the person you love is disappearing, not growing away, but shrinking, falling into themselves and leaving you behind? What do you do when the black cloud descends and wraps itself too tightly around your love and you don't know how to free them?
This song has always made me wonder just how tough it must be to be on the other side. I imagine it must be hell - I imagine that there's little you can do except - as Thom Yorke sings - "Blame it on the black star, blame it on the falling sky..." seems as good a strategy as anything else.
One thing to remember though - particularly if you are dealing with this kind of situation - there are trained grief professionals who do know how to help you - who have dealt with this before and who can make a huge difference to your lives. http://www.griefdirectory.org/
You can learn more about Radiohead here:
About the Curator - Andrew McCluskey
The first visual memory I have is that of the white upright piano in Singapore, Hell and the dark forces lived at the bottom, Heaven and the Angels at the top. They would play battles through my fingers and I was hooked.
After my dad died I was very sad - I couldn't play for a while and when I did, the music that came out reflected my grieving state. I wrote an album of solo piano music called Music to Grieve to - from which the idea of the Music to community originated.
If you'd like to know more you should read Nicole's fabulous article on why listening to sad music can make you feel better.