The things we hold on to,
Can cloud your point of view
— Daniel Scarsella

Ain't that the truth!

I read somewhere recently that you're only allowed 7 seconds - 7 seconds to reflect on that embarrassing incident or poor performance, or indeed complete fuck up - yes you can acknowledge it, yes you can promise yourself that you'll learn from it and not do something like that again - but after 7 seconds - you're done - you drop it and move on!

One of the hardest things when it comes to grief and depression - for me anyway - is how sometimes your mind will just not let you do this.  It latches onto the thing that is causing you pain and it won't let go - it's like having a song stuck in your head that you can't get rid of.  For external loss it is bad enough - the memory of the loved one that replays over and over again - but when the memory is of personal failure, it often comes with an additional soundtrack - that of your bastard internal voice that tells you you suck, that you're no good - and this is a classic example of why.

Grief is weird - grieving is weird, being sad, either for internal or external reasons is not a great place to be in - if we could only help ourselves to not focus on the bad - or at the very least - stick to the 7 second rule - life would feel so much better.

This is a beautiful track from Daniel Scarsella - I'd never heard of him before, he submitted the track for the playlist and I think it's perfect.  Super simple but effective composition - great harmonies, good execution - but it's the song - it's the hook - it's that moment taken out to reflect - I hope you enjoy it too.

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About the Curator - Andrew McCluskey

The first visual memory I have is that of the white upright piano in Singapore, Hell and the dark forces lived at the bottom, Heaven and the Angels at the top. They would play battles through my fingers and I was hooked.

Although I've always played, I haven't always been a musician.  Most of my twenties were spent working with people, buying and selling and learning how the world works.  It was in my thirties that I came to America and focused on music and began to develop music2work2.

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