Society does a poor job of dealing with grief, particularly in western European culture - it seems as if we're happier to just tuck it away, not deal with it - to keep it hidden and put on the brave face. But we all know that's a shitty way to cope with it, why wouldn't we want help?
If there's one core mission or raison d'être behind the music to grieve to playlist, it is to raise awareness of grief within society. If we can start conversations about grief and how we tackle it, if we can help grieving people by letting them know that listening to sad music can actually make them feel good, if we can raise the visibility of professionals who work in this space and let people know that they have options and that they don't have to do this alone - then we'll be quietly stoked.
I am fortunate enough not to know anyone who has taken their own life - I have on occasions been so depressed that I've considered it myself - but that was long ago. The grief of losing someone you love is bad enough - this whole playlist, in fact the entire Music to community was jump started by own grief after my Father's death in 2015, and he had lived a full and amazing life. I know parents who have lost their children and children who have lost their parents through early and untimely deaths - the grief looks just horrific and yet - nothing seems as insidious as the grief that goes with suicide.
This week's track was recommended by Sharon Ehlers - a professional grief counselor who works with survivors of suicide. As she succinctly puts it as to why this track: "Love the lyrics." It's a tough track this week - thank you Sharon for what you do.
Sharon Ehlers is an award winning author, Certified Grief Recovery Specialist and Reiki Master. She is the author of “Grief Reiki - An Integrated Approach to the Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Components of Grief and Loss.” She is the co-author of “Grief Diaries: Surviving Loss by Suicide.” Sharon helps others to heal and recover from grief by providing them with a safe, compassionate and healing environment for their journey.
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About the Curator - Andrew McCluskey
The first visual memory I have is that of the white upright piano in Singapore, Hell and the dark forces lived at the bottom, Heaven and the Angels at the top. They would play battles through my fingers and I was hooked.
After my dad died I was very sad - I couldn't play for a while and when I did, the music that came out reflected my grieving state. I wrote an album of solo piano music called Music to Grieve to - from which the idea of the Music to community originated.
If you'd like to know more you should read Nicole's fabulous article on why listening to sad music can make you feel better.