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What if it really isn’t you - it’s me?

What if the underlying reason for why we broke up is that, I’m a dick!

The thing about breakup music is that it’s often presented from the perspective of the one being wronged: the partner cheated or fell out of love or turned out to be a demon - you know the drill. It’s cool ‘cos we get to empathize with them (the whole point of this playlist,) and it’s easier to hurt when it’s not your fault.

But sometimes - often-time - in the real world, it totally is your fault. Unfortunately it doesn’t mean you get to escape the grief that accompanies a relationship ending - in fact - as Ely points out in this track - it makes it worse.

At least if you’re the wronged one you can go to your corner, lick your wounds, know that it wasn’t your doing and ultimately move on. But if you’re the bad actor, then not only do you end up grieving the loss of the relationship - you also have to deal with the fact that you’re not a very nice person. Grief is bad enough but when you have to deal with the insidious internal voice telling you that you’re a dick - depression is never far away.

What caught my ear was how raw the track was - there was an authenticity to the mix and overall production and the vocal is a stand out. Here’s what Ely had to say on his submission:

I wrote this song when I was dealing with heartbreak but it was a wrestle emotionally and mentally because the heartbreak was due to my own actions.

I mixed sounds of RnB/Lo-Fi/Indie to produce this song. I poured my heart into this & I hope you feel every emotion in each word.
— Ely

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About the Curator - Andrew McCluskey

The first visual memory I have is that of the white upright piano in Singapore, Hell and the dark forces lived at the bottom, Heaven and the Angels at the top. They would play battles through my fingers and I was hooked.

After my dad died I was very sad - I couldn't play for a while and when I did, the music that came out reflected my grieving state.  I wrote an album of solo piano music called Music to Grieve to - from which the idea of the Music to community originated.  

If you'd like to know more you should read Nicole's fabulous article on why listening to sad music can make you feel better.