Listening to sad music isn’t exactly a group activity.
You don’t call your friends up and go “Hey guys, fancy coming round and spending the evening bawling your eyes out…?”
Sad music is best listened to in isolation.
Creating the space to cry is a considered act. Oh sure – grief’s tears will often embarrass you – but to create space for them – to allocate time to sit down and say – “fuck this – tonight – we’re doing grief right!” – that – that is a considered act – and one that I believe has huge recuperative benefits.
If you want to get a jump on grief – if you want to release the pressure valve – if you want to have your emotions shifted and shaped by a skilled song writer, here’s what you do.
Listen to this track.
Ok – so clearly it isn’t as easy as that – ‘cos you’ve probably got a life - with people and responsibilities – but – if it’s in your current power – create some space – find an hour and a place where you don’t need to be anywhere or anyone – where you can just be - and put this track on repeat…
Good songs reward repeat listening – the lyric becomes more personal and resonant – the structure becomes familiar and anticipatory. If the song is good enough, it takes you on an emotional journey that somehow – in whatever weird ass way that music works – leaves you feeling better.
This song is most definitely worth your time.
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About the Curator - Andrew McCluskey
The first visual memory I have is that of the white upright piano in Singapore, Hell and the dark forces lived at the bottom, Heaven and the Angels at the top. They would play battles through my fingers and I was hooked.
After my dad died I was very sad - I couldn't play for a while and when I did, the music that came out reflected my grieving state. I wrote an album of solo piano music called Music to Grieve to - from which the idea of the Music to community originated.
If you'd like to know more you should read Nicole's fabulous article on why listening to sad music can make you feel better.
25 September 2021
Why write a song reflecting on the suicide of a beloved friend? Why send it out into the world? What purpose does that serve? Ever since Gerhardt reached out and sent me this beautiful track, I’ve been reflecting on those questions – and while I don’t have an answer, I have an idea of one…
13 April 2021
I was feeling sad – and I know why, but damn it’s so hard at times.
I’ve sat and watched as circumstance came in and deconstructed my defences one by one – constant pain leading to lack of sleep to lack of writing to lack of self care to lack of confidence to lack of hope to – STOP!
31 March 2021
There’s this idea in life that just because you know a thing it makes it easier to deal with.
Like sitting down with a therapist, driving through your history until you find the behavior that causes you, many years later, to run away from connection or drink too much or insist on cleaning everything 3 times.