I was writing a few weeks back about how it’s often seeing an act of human kindness that will make me cry – more so than experiencing something sad. There’s something in that – focusing on the good rather than the bad - that makes this track resonate for the grieve to list.
Sure – when you’ve lost someone - listening to leaving songs / breakup songs / torch songs are definitely one way to go – but sometimes going in the other direction can be even more powerful and intense.
When I’m remembering someone – I like to remember the best of them – their innate goodness – the thing about them that made me love them. It’s songs like these that evoke that experience.
The music sets the tone – it’s slow, somber, considered – the vocal positioning, the honesty, the sheer unadulterated way in which the singer delivers the lyric – if this was your man – I think you’d have been pretty stoked.
It’s a beautiful song and one that widows everywhere might just find has them in tears – and you know what – sometimes that’s exactly what's needed.
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About the Curator - Andrew McCluskey
The first visual memory I have is that of the white upright piano in Singapore, Hell and the dark forces lived at the bottom, Heaven and the Angels at the top. They would play battles through my fingers and I was hooked.
After my dad died I was very sad - I couldn't play for a while and when I did, the music that came out reflected my grieving state. I wrote an album of solo piano music called Music to Grieve to - from which the idea of the Music to community originated.
If you'd like to know more you should read Nicole's fabulous article on why listening to sad music can make you feel better.
25 September 2021
Why write a song reflecting on the suicide of a beloved friend? Why send it out into the world? What purpose does that serve? Ever since Gerhardt reached out and sent me this beautiful track, I’ve been reflecting on those questions – and while I don’t have an answer, I have an idea of one…
13 April 2021
I was feeling sad – and I know why, but damn it’s so hard at times.
I’ve sat and watched as circumstance came in and deconstructed my defences one by one – constant pain leading to lack of sleep to lack of writing to lack of self care to lack of confidence to lack of hope to – STOP!
31 March 2021
There’s this idea in life that just because you know a thing it makes it easier to deal with.
Like sitting down with a therapist, driving through your history until you find the behavior that causes you, many years later, to run away from connection or drink too much or insist on cleaning everything 3 times.